Meet the Makers: “My name is ‘dreams’”

“My name is Ahlam, it means “dreams”.

At 17, I began my life by marrying a man, hoping he would shield me from my stepmother's cruelty. However, instead of finding refuge, I encountered further suffering. We had three children together before he fell in love with another woman, took her as a second wife, and gradually abandoned us. His visits became sporadic, and he provided little financial support. I worked tirelessly to care for our children alone. After five years, he asked for divorce, claiming the burden of two families was too heavy. I resisted, refusing to leave my children behind.

The problems between us escalated; he became abusive and eventually took the children from me. I returned to my father’s house with nothing and my own father barred me from seeing my children, deepening my sadness. My children and I had become victims of a patriarchal society where women have no rights. I was ensnared in a cycle of loss and separation.

Returning to my family home offered no solace; it was another kind of torment. Overwhelmed by despair, I once tried to end my life. In our village, being a divorced woman was a stain on one's honour; everything I did was scrutinised and judged. I rejected all suitors, clinging to a hope that my husband would return and reunite me with my children. Time passed, and I eventually consented to marry an older man that would take me away, seeing it as an escape from my community.

Relocating to Lebanon, I found joy in the birth of my daughters, whom I loved fiercely, vowing never to be separated from them. 

Despite my efforts, I got divorced again after discovering my second husband's infidelity. I chose to be both mother and father to my daughters, embracing independence. 

Life presented endless hurdles and our existence was marred by struggle and poverty. I stayed in friends' homes, but my circumstances were too much for them. I rented a room and faced life's challenges head-on. 

Then my luck struck and my neighbour introduced me to Oshana (Makani’s handcraft project). Crocheting became my solace and livelihood. At Oshana, I found a sense of belonging and purpose among supportive teachers and fellow craftswomen. This new skill not only provided an income but also a community and a chance to rebuild my life.

My life now orbits around my daughters and my work. I am determined to provide for them, I am committed to ensuring their well-being, working diligently to support them.

At Oshana, I've discovered a sanctuary, a place of beauty and friendship. It represents a dream being woven together, like the crochet threads I work with, building a new home, a new life. Here, I have left behind many past troubles, finding peace and friendship.

I am Ahlam, and Oshana is my newfound home. May peace and happiness be yours as well.”